Fantasy Dominator asked:
I went to a baby shower and people were asking “are you dieting for the Wedding?”–well I’m not really…trying to tone but at a size 18 and 5′11″, I’m okay with myself. Heck why would I be one of those Brides who drops a bunch of weight just for her wedding & piles it all back & some after? No thanks. So it made me think–what I’m less beautiful bc I’m plus? And lately I’ve heard people say–did you see how heavy that bride is (I was at David’s Bridal & a Bride came out of the dressing room)…:( Opinions…
Please know I’m not downgrading thin people or looking for them to be ridiculed–I’m only trying to ask a question here–I’m sorry if anyone got offended for people defending the plus sized figure and downgrading the thin. I know and respect that not all thinner people are disrespectful/rude to heavier people….
I went to a baby shower and people were asking “are you dieting for the Wedding?”–well I’m not really…trying to tone but at a size 18 and 5′11″, I’m okay with myself. Heck why would I be one of those Brides who drops a bunch of weight just for her wedding & piles it all back & some after? No thanks. So it made me think–what I’m less beautiful bc I’m plus? And lately I’ve heard people say–did you see how heavy that bride is (I was at David’s Bridal & a Bride came out of the dressing room)…:( Opinions…
Please know I’m not downgrading thin people or looking for them to be ridiculed–I’m only trying to ask a question here–I’m sorry if anyone got offended for people defending the plus sized figure and downgrading the thin. I know and respect that not all thinner people are disrespectful/rude to heavier people….
All that matters is how you feel about yourself. You are obviously beautiful to someone because he is about to marry you! Don’t try to be what you think others want you to be, you”ll end up feeling bad.
Plus sized brides in MYY opinion look better i mean they have the CURVES to actually fill out the dress. I think plus size brides look better just because the fill out the dress more and you should feel beautiful on your day dont think about what anyone else thinks!
you’re right about dropping and gaining, don’t go for that! if your’re really worried simply try some fun sports wiht your future husband! but either way, the bride is ALWAYS beautiful! It doesn’t even matter what she looks like, just look at any truly in love brides face. Glowing, smiling, its like looking at angel
I beleive plus sized models are just as beautiful as your size 2 model. In all reality they usually have a better attitude and carry themselves alot better. At 5′11 and being a size 18, I thikn you will make a beautiful bride!!
Don’t lose wait if you’re happy with yourself!
Really, if you’re bigger, then theres more of you to love!
You be who you want to be. You’re confidence in yourself is great. And obviously you didn’t need to be skinny to get engaged.
I see alot more plus-sized brides than super-skinny ones so we all must be doing something right if we’re the ones getting hitched – LOL.
I understand what you are saying, though. And I too just want to tone up (I’m about a size 16 but much shorter than you).
You’ll have a great day and really enjoy yourself – and that is what matters!
I choose not to diet for my own wedding because you should be natural and yourself at your wedding. Losing 20 pounds and tanning 20 times might feel great, but I knew I would look back at the pictures and go, “That wasn’t me”. As long as you are happy with yourself, don’t let others make you feel less beautiful. It is all about how you feel. Skinny isn’t always attractive.
Not at all. Everyone is beautiful in their own way and only shallow people would say something as narcissistic as “did you see how heavy that bride was?” I wouldn’t sweat it if you’re happy with self then let the vain bear the burden of coping with it.
Weighing more than most isnt a sin, hell theres nothing wrong with it. No matter what those ugly skinny bitches say you are beautiful, dont let anyone ever tell you anything less. If those people say that about you in hushed tones, they are ugly inside and that isnt attractive or a good asset. Pay no attention. Only insecure people lose weight for their wedding day. Whats the point? Be happy as you are
I’m sure you will look amazingly gorgeous on your wedding day.
Sometimes people say crappy things just to make themselves feel better. My wedding dress is a size 10, and I got that question a couple times myself at my own shower, while I was hitting the chocolate fountain, of course. I agree with you, I am trying to eat healthier and excercise more as a permanent change in my, I’m not going to binge diet and then gain it back after the wedding, that has to be unhealthy. And you know, its really none of their business and rude of them to be asking that.
absolutely not, i am 6 feet and like a size 22, im overweight but im not overly big for my hieght. i am getting married in a year a bit, and i think if you find the right dress that accents your positive features and makes you feel beautiful, then really who cares what everyone else says, u think u look great, and ur husband will think you look great.. and its the people taht say that, taht have never been over weight and run a million miles a day. they dont know waht its like. dont let it get to you, i understand when brides taht are my size try and squeeze into a 16 , yea defnitely weo your a big girl and shouldnt be tryin that on.. but if you know your big and your comfortable with yourself, and you find that perfect dress that make you feel like a million bucks, then all the world to you.. ( and thats wierd poeople asking you if your going to diet for the wedding, there the ones that need sum re evaluating, nto you)
And by the way, congrats on the engagement!
i would not worry about other’s opinion. you seem like you have very high self esteem and are very happy with how you look. and if you are happy than nothing else really matters!
The problem with our society is that we have a twisted idea of what beauty is: size 0 and tall. Anything remotely larger than that is fat, ugly, etc. This absolutly insane! So my answer is, no, it doesn’t make you less beautiful!! What the hell is wrong with people. As long as you buy a dress than compliments your figure you’ll be as beautiful as any other bride. You accept the fact that you’re not annorexic and are OK with that. However, what I don’t like is when larger brides and larger women in general) wear clothing that is obviously too tight/small for them. It’s unflattering and makes them look trashy. So as long as you’re not trying to fool yourself and fit into a dress 2 or 3 sizes too small for you and makes you look bigger than you really are. You sound like you have a good, confident head on your shoulders and you know your own body. Good for you!
And that whole dieting thing- I didn’t do it. I kept to my regular routine and ate normally. Along with spending an extraviangt amount of money for one day, I couldn’t see starving my self just for one day either.
NO !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
We are not it is just programed in to people that you must be a size 2 to be a bride . You must be skinny or you are not worthy.
BLUUG. Sorry had to chuck that makes me sick. No matter if yo are big or small on your day you look great If it is anything skinny people are just jealous. We rock we have it all. brains curves and the boobs.
Don’t let the sheep get to you .Just keep being you and remember big is beautiful.
I should have not gone off as bad as i did. So let me say it the right way. The people who said that at the dress store were jealous of the bride.
I dont think that but people in general have been taught by society that fat or chuby or thick or whatever you wanna call it, is ugly. that is NOT TRUE!!! Im sure i will be a plus size bride but then again…..since when did having curves make you a plus size??
I have learned not to look at size….i do not see myself as FAT. I’m healthy, I got plenty curves and DDD’s that my man loves and even though i find it very hard to shop for clothes that fit right…..as long as i maintain a normal diet (I dont deprive myself of anything….moderation is a good thing) and work out 3X a week just to stay active….i cant feel bad about that….
I’m sure no matter what size you are you will be glowing like the sun on the day you get married…..congrats and God Bless!!
No way! I’ve seen beautiful thin brides, but I’ve seen more beautiful brides that are plus size. The most beautiful part of a bride is the happiness she radiates anyways
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I dont think plus is necessarily more OR less beautiful. Some other posters seem to think that plus size is more beautiful, and I think that is equally wrong to say. Some people have healthy lifestyles and are therefore naturally thin- are they less beautiful because they are thin?
If you are overweight, you know you are and its up to you to make lifestyle changes. Dieting for the wedding only is not the way to go.
So to answer your question- no, plus size brides are not less beautiful (neither are thin ones) and yes I agree, dieting just for the wedding is silly and is just going to end up in dissappointment when the weight comes back.
WIth all of these shows about weddings, bridezillas, brides working out to get thinner for their wedding, etc. I feel that its become a trend right now to “diet for your wedding” – the “IN” thing to do.
What makes a woman beautiful is how she carries herself, not her weight. If she dresses appropriately and feels confident, then it really doesn’t matter if she is “overweight” as long as she is mentally and physically healthy. I think the fashion business and people in general are starting to realize this too, it is just a very slow process.
(Personally I would rather eat some of the foods I love and not work out too much, than only to eat a packet of oatmeal a day and work out for hours every day…like two of the size 6 girls at my work – no thanks!)
I am a size 18 right now..trying to get to 180, I weigh 210…just so I am comfortable with myself after the birth of my daughter – and so I can be more active.
Anyways, my best friend who wears a 10-12 and I both did that real age test on realage.com and guess what? I am only a year and a half older than my actual 30 years of age – because I eat good foods and have been virtually the same weight since my late teens.
Her test results scored her 3 years older than her actual age and part of it has to do with the spurts of working out and losing a bit of weight and then gaining it back. And not eating as good.
SOme times I get self conscious with the two girls here at work..they see me eat “so much” every day and look at me like I am some sort of fat pariah. Guess what? I eat almost 1800 calories a day and am losing weight..ha!
F**K all of the folk who even think such a thing. I love that your happy with yourself and obviously your man is happy with it too. STAY as you are and damn the people who think brides should look like sticks. You have made my day and I suggest you make YOUR day YOUR way!!!! good luck!
What matters that day is that you feel beautiful and that your husband looks at you like you are the only other person in the room. How you look that day is going to depend on how you feel. If you are truly happy, in love and feel so much joy just being with your husband then you are going to look beautiful.
There is a difference between a bride who looks happy and in love then a bride who doesn’t. When you look back on the pictures just look at your smile and how happy you are to be with the person you are going to love for the rest of your life. If you feel that you are going to be comfortable being just the way you are right now, then you are going to be fine. Just don’t let anyone tell you otherwise.
I was the type of person who has just always been self conscious about my weight, so I definitely dieted…however, I found that on that day it was the last thing on my mind.
So, don’t worry. As long as you are comfortable with yourself then you are going to look beautiful!
First and foremost, your fiance asked you to marry him just as you are at this moment. The only opinion that matters in all of this, however, is yours. Small, curvy, plus, waif, who cares….to thine ownself be true! Don’t try to fit somebody’s wedding day expectations. Don’t let a bunch of insecure women steal your joy because they can’t find anything better to entertain their small brains. This is your and your fiance’s time. Don’t let a few ignorant comments detract from what’s most important to celebrate…….the love that got you here! He loves you! He CHOSE you! You CHOSE him! Leave all of that mess where it belongs……beneath your feet. It doesn’t even warrant a second thought.
*Side note* : My husband said that he likes curves. He said he prefers women to look like women and not boys. Big curves, little curves, who cares….it’s all beautiful.
Congrats on the wedding! May is such a great month to get married. Good luck to you both, and I hope this helps!
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No! A bride is always as beautiful as she feels. No one should ever be able to affect how you feel about yourself. If you are happy with who you are and how you look, why should you change for one day? You decide how beautiful you are and no one else. Your fiance loves you the way you are, otherwise he wouldn’t have asked you to marry him and his opinion should be the only one who matters, but only after your own. It’s your day, unless you want to change the way you look, don’t. God made you in his eyes just as beautiful as you are, you should never have to change anything about yourself.
Well what it really comes down to is your comfortableness with you. If you’re fine about your weight then PLEASE don’t allow other peoples opinions to become your own. Try being less of a people pleaser and more of a self pleaser. ALWAYS REMAIN TRUE TO YOU!!!!!! Remember no matter how much you try you will never please everybody. So at the end of the day make sure your pleased and satisfied.
Every brides is beautiful I had gallstone problems and couldnt eat before my wedding and was a size 16 and felt gorgeous on my wedding day but 3½ years and 2 kids later I am back to the weight I was before I got married and my husband still thinks Im gorgeous so tell them to get stuffed
Plus sized brides are beautiful too!!
I understand why you don’t want to loose a bunch or weight for the weeding only to gain in back later. But I don’t understand why you don’t want to loose weight and keep it off. Carrying around that extra weight is not healthy. It’s not just a beauty issue – it’s a health issue!
Hell no! it doesn’t matter what size you are he married you becuz of who you are so put on your dress and strut your stuff baby girl…and forget them people who think size zero is a size hell no! its a warning sign!!!!!!!!!! I’m thick and lovin it!
Oh my peach, I think you are having a few jitters about your wedding, focussing on the size of your dress, instead of the size of your heart. If you are okay with yourself, then don’t worry if those anorexic stick figures (who think they are god’s gift to men) make nasty comments about women who are not so hung up on having to fit into a size two calvin klein jean. Frankly, when I see some of these stick figure “Twiggy look-a-likes” and see their butts that look like they are the size of my pinky, I wonder if they are going to be cut in half when their husband explodes inside of them on their first night of love making. Think Jean Harlowe, Marilyn Monroe, and Mae West, some of those blonde bombshells who had no problem with flaunting their curves, and carrying their weight like a self-assured woman. The next time you hear such a comment, look at this woman straight in the eye, and say, “But dear, if every woman were as skinny and beautiful as you are, then no one would think you were so special. And, we would only have female airheads on this planet too.” Don’t give these stick figures one more thought, my peach. You are beautiful, and in their attempts to get skinny, they have apparently shrunk their brains too!
No. It is all about what is considered to be socially acceptable/fashionable. If you look at paintings from the Renaissance, natural looking women were considered the most attractive. To have curves and a bit of a stomach was considered feminine, and the most beautiful kind.
Don’t worry about what other people think, just worry about what you think. If you feel that you are perfect just the way you are, then you are the perfect bride. The perfect girl, in the eyes of the media is constantly changing. So listen to your heart, not the voices around you. What is considered beautiful, is not always healthy. If you have any respect for yourself you will ignore the media and the shallow people around you.
Afterall you have to question when a man marries an anorexic woman with no boobes and no hips, does he want to marry a woman…. or does he actually want to marry a man? Feel lucky that your fiance appreciates the female figure, and wants to be in bed with a beautiful woman.
I think confidence is what makes someone beautiful. I admire your confidence…I’m jealous of it. I’m a size 6 and have very little confidence in myself. I wish I had the confidence you do..and I think you’ll be absolutely gorgeous on your big day! Congrats…Im a May bride too!
GIRL, I’M A SIZE 20 AND NOT LOSING ANYTHING.
BE PROUD TO BE CURVY!!!!!
YOUR GOING TO BE BEAUTIFUL!
I wouldn’t say less beautiful because I’ve seen some skinny girls in very unflattering dresses. I think so many people diet and exercise for their wedding is because they are going to be on display all day and there are going to be a ton of pictures. I’m working on toning my arms because my dress is strapless and just because I fit in a size 8 doesn’t mean the part showing looks good. I think someone in a 16 would look better in my dress than me now if they had a more toned phsyique. So no I don’t think it matters the size but more of how you look in it. I heard so many nasty comments when I was trying on dresses because it was very crowded and there were two plus sized girls trying on dresses. They were mostly coming from two girls watching their friend try on dresses though and they were probably just bitter because they were skinny and single. There are people who think plus sized people don’t look good in anything, you won’t be able to change their opinions but you can ignore them.
No I personally think that every bride looks gorgeous on their wedding day their is just something about them that makes them glow. Only loose weight if it is what you want. You will look beautiful. Congrats
I’m a plus sized Bride (size 18 as well) at 5′ 0″! I’d like to lose weight for my health, not for looks, but I’m thinking of holding off until after the wedding. I don’t want to lose a whole bunch of weight and have fitting problems with my dress.
I’ve felt the same way before. People seem to think or act like we’re not as pretty as they are just because we’re bigger, but screw them. If you’re ok with yourself, don’t lose the weight to look “better” for some judgmental person. Lose the weight for YOU, if that’s what you want.
I’m sure I’ll hear the same thing about me being heavy when I go to try on dresses.
It makes me sad the kind of place we live in: where people just can’t accept others for who they are simply because they aren’t “normal.”
i think thoes people are so rude!!!!!!
Personally, I’m content with who I am so I see no need to put other people down. I’m thin & very happy with myself. I wouldn’t like being overweight, but that’s just me.
As you can see, us “thin girls” get put down pretty often too and for some reason it’s totally acceptable to do so, while it would not be acceptable to say certain things about a heavy person. Perfect example: RICARDO, who is not only rude, but gave me quite a disgusting visual as well. So, apparently I think I’m God’s gift to men, I make nasty comments about people, I’m a stick figure AND an airhead! Wow! I’m so glad that was pointed out to me. Yeah, welcome to MY club. People have no problem telling me I need to eat a burger, yet I would never tell a heavy person to take that food out of their mouth. So, just be happy that if people ARE saying things about you, it’s usually behind your back and not directly in your face.
BTW I have a “plus size” girlfriend that not only rivals me, but any model on this planet.
EDIT: Sorry, didn’t mean to use your question as a forum to be angry about it, but really . . .
the best thing is that you fell good about your self that’s all that matters
if you feel beautiful, then don’t let anyone pop your bubble. If you don’t want to lose weight, then that’s fine.
But just remember, if for some reason you do lose weight later in life, you’ll look back at your wedding photos and probably wish you had attempted to look a little more thin.
Not at all! I am a plus sized bride myself. I admit to trying to “tone up” for the day, but if it doesn’t work then it just doesn’t work. We are marrying men who love us for who we are and that is all that matters. I think it’s incredibly rude to ask someone if they are dieting for the wedding. If you and your hubby-to-be are happy then that is all that matters. I feel beautiful each time I try on a wedding dress…as we all should. Good luck and congratulations!
I think all brides are beautiful on their wedding day.
If you are comfortable, then that is what matters.
I am at the opposite end of the spectrum. I have been in my appropriate weight range my whole life, but always want to lose that last five pounds LOL.
Congrats and I am sure you will look beautiful!
I’m sorry people asked you that…that’s a very insensitive thing to say to a bride. Keep in mind that David’s Bridal is very cookie-cutter, and many women who shop there want to look like clones of what they see in the magazines. I just read an article that some of them are developing eating disorders over the whole thing. You will be beautiful. And toning up will make you even more so, and will give you better posture and confidence. Relax and enjoy the planning!
absoulutly not!! i think all brides are beautiful no matter what size they are.there happiness comes from inside. remember your fiance loves you for who you are. forget about the chicks at davids bridal thy will be working while you are having a beautiful day with your hubby lol congrats on your wedding!! im sure your hubby to be will pass out when he ses you lol
No I don’t.
No, I don’t feel plus sized brides are any less beautiful than any other bride. As long as you are happy in your own skin, that’s really all that matters. I would much rather be a plus size and happy in my own skin than anorexic because I bought into society’s view of things.
Why would they be? Just because they are bigger. My mother is plus size and she looks fabulous in everything she wears and my sister is also plus size, and trust me i know alot of stick figure people that could not hold a candle to my mother or sister. It’s all how you carry yourself and being confident in yourself. I’m actually tring to gain some weight to look nicer in my wedding dress. Don’t let people put you down. In some countries and culture such as mine. the men will not date or marry someone under a size 12 and that is consider skinny. we believe bigger is better and richer. now it’s good to be happy with yourself and also healthy. As long as your man loves you and your not hurting yourself health wise who cares what people think.